Are you a right-minded woman?

The right-minded woman doesn’t allow herself to be overtaken by demands around her. She keeps herself composed and calm at all times. She meets the demands she can while leaving the ones she can’t in God’s hands. She holds a quiet surety and confidence in Christ, that enables her the strength needed to carry on.

Her days are busy doing God’s will above her own will. Those around her seek guidance so they too can become like her. She doesn’t grow weary in well, doing but rather it motivates her continuation.

She readies herself in preparations for future problems that may arise. She educates herself to better care for her family. She teaches the younger females how to carry on long after she leaves this earth.

Her days are not spent on idol things. She purposely plans the moments of the day to be used wisely. She doesn’t allow distractions.

She takes the resources coming in and uses each part of them. There is no waste of resources as waste is not a word in her vocabulary.

She keeps herself learned Biblically and her clothing attire is modest. Her humble ways produce greatness around her. She is a doer and giver of the heart.

She never allows her mind to wander. She keeps her thoughts in captivity as a means to discern each thought coming through.

People come to her seeking help, she gives as she can. Her priorities are God, family, others,  and then herself. She holds no selfish tendencies. She is far from perfect but doesn’t seek perfection. She seeks to do God’s will and holds a servant’s heart.

She holds no need to be the center of attention. She is content to do for others by the works of her hands. Glory is not what she seeks but rather knowing that her family is well cared for.

She holds no time for anger as anger holds her back from the capability needed to care for those around her. Her needs are met by God as she doesn’t seek those around her to meet her needs.

She is content in all her ways. She appreciates every moment allowed on earth and sees it as opportunities to continue the good works God started in her.

Her days are filled with words of praise and a grateful heart. She uses the blessings given to her to bless others around her. She expects nothing for her kindness. Her approval is sought from God, not from those around her. She’s quiet and meek. When she speaks, people listen. Her words spoken hold knowledge and truth.

She stays close to God while keeping the world far from her. She is a testimony of strength, beauty, and graciousness. She does not put herself in a position to become a wrong-minded woman.

Many of us think it is impossible in the modern times we live in to be like the virtuous woman found in Proverbs 31:10-31.  It is not as hard as one might think. I wrote a book teaching how to be the right-minded woman. It takes a lot of surrendering, a lot of prayers, discipline in our minds and tongues and accountability helps greatly.  I will be sharing a series of teachings on how to become a right-minded woman on this site. If you want to learn more, please follow this page and sign up by email to be a part of this free series.

Blessings,

Robin Worgull

Don’t dim your light by playing with darkness:

Many people question the upset around them but fail to realize they were the ones who unknowingly invited it.  I’m drawn to 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22 ” Prove all things; hold fast that which is good. Abstain from all appearances of evil.”

Keep in mind, some things are disguised to appear innocent but hold darkness. There are family board games that allow you to call on spirits. If we are to follow scripture then these board games don’t belong near our family, whether they appear innocent or not. Sometimes we look at the maker of the games and assume they are innocent to play, but wisdom screams, back away.

We also must take an inventory on the books we read, movies watched, the certain company we keep and even the interests we hold. All these areas that appear as innocent or harmless entertainment, could be surrounding us with darkness.

We are called to stand out like a light to a dark world. Sometimes, we are the ones dimming our light by the things we partake in.  With that being said, if we are to abstain from all appearances of evil, then we must not partake in anything that sets us up to be deceived. Things that hold the appearance of evil often can be misleading. Certain movies may hold demons, or witchcraft that was slipped into a suspense movie or even a book. Certain people who dabble in sorcery, paranormal activity or destructive behavior such as drinking, drugs, or crime; may be carriers of darkness and just being around them;  can have us taking on their darkness on as our own.  People who read horoscopes or have tarot cards read are literally opening to the door to the enemy, and inviting darkness to attack them, in areas they will be least suspecting it. Those areas normally will be something that they held closest to their hearts such as their marriage, children, job, finances or health. These will be the areas hit first, that dark spirits like to attack in. They attack closest to the heart,  in order to get the person knocked down emotionally, physically, or spiritually;  which allows them greater access to inflict greater turmoil,  due to the fact the person is vulnerable,  due to the emotional instability caused by the original attack.

As believer’s we must keep in mind, light and darkness can’t exist in the same room as one will overpower the other. We must not invite darkness to dim our light. We must use wisdom in the activities we partake in and create a barrier against darkness, by abstaining from all appearances of evil.

Blessings,

Robin Worgull

Recognizing Unhealthy Love:

Some of you reading may have been abused at the hands of family members or a trusted individual. It was not until you grew older did you realize this was wrong. I’m not only referring to sexual abuse but all forms including verbal, emotional,  and physical. In order for people to abuse, they must first deceive the one they are trying to get to conform to whatever it is they want them to do. They begin manipulating in an attempt to gain control. Once control is held they begin using fear to continue controlling in order to further abuse. Some people have been unable to move due to such fear felt. They continue to hold fear even long after the abuse is over. Many hold guilt, shame, and question if it was their fault or not. This leads to self-doubt, low self-esteem, lack of confidence, trust and intimacy issues later on in life. Numerous women have shared their past with me and those who carried insecurities and shame long-term found that they carried these raw emotions into relationships along the way. This created tension due to them placing an undeserved punishment on the men they were involved with and also closely monitoring the man’s every move.

Many people have tried hiding their past from their partner, but those fears surface in the most sensitive times. So much so, that some of you question why relationships ended when you thought they were going so well. Many people who have been abused at a young age learn quickly how to hide and pretend everything is okay when in all actuality it is not. Certain things still trigger the memory of their past such as tone of voice, body language or something such as a certain smell. They may try to find instant relief such as through alcohol, drugs or promiscuous behavior. However,  in the end, they find themselves feeling unworthy of being loved. Love is foreign to them due to what they were exposed too.

They find themselves in relationships that require them to meet challenges or overcome obstacles in order to be loved. This may have been an unhealthy survival skill they learned at a young age such as pleasing those around them by doing things for them. Let me remind you that not all survival skills learned are healthy.

If you are in a relationship where challenges must be met in order for you to feel loved, you will be emotionally and physically exhausted while still feeling unfulfilled and looking for your needs to be met. More than likely your needs won’t be met due to you being with someone who doesn’t truly love you. They may love how you make them feel but if they truly loved you, there would be no obstacles to overcome or challenges to be met in order for them to return back what you offered first. If someone is okay allowing you to suffer emotionally in order to be with them, that is not healthy love but rather an unhealthy love. If time in the bedroom leaves you feeling used or dirty afterward, then you are not being loved as you should be.

We all carry the knowledge of how things are and my question I leave you with is this…What good is knowledge if you do nothing with the knowledge you hold? I said that to say this, you are worthy of love and your suffering ends as soon as you call the truth of your situation.

Blessings,

Robin Worgull

What exactly are you waiting for?

Many of us know what is expected of us and what we need to be doing but instead of doing what needs to be done, we wait. What are we waiting on?

If we keep waiting for the right moment, the one that feels right, then we lose the moment at hand. Doing what is right often feels wrong.

If we keep looking for a sign or permission from others, to do what is already laid on us to do, then we are guilty of stopping the plans God holds for us to carry out.

If we need the approval of others to feel comfortable doing what God leads us to do, then we better learn real quick to get comfortable being uncomfortable,  because most people don’t hold approval for themselves let alone for anyone else.

Too many people are waiting for the right time, right feeling, right circumstances, or the courage to finally do what needs to be done and is long overdue. There is never a right time or right feeling or even right circumstance we can find ourselves in except, right now. Life is full of chaos and situations are always presenting themselves. Situations such as financial issues, health issues, marital problems, the raising of children, or work-related issues etc.

Those that keep waiting are taking the strength they had left and lost it to the stress of procrastination. When we procrastinate, it is because we don’t truly believe that we were chosen or set apart to live an abundant life promised to us.  We tend to believe others were chosen and a better fit for the job meant for us. Many of us are not walking out our part in God’s plan. We keep looking at everyone around us and think we should be doing what they are doing. We fail to realize they are looking at us and trying to follow what we are doing.

You hold purpose but are purposely avoiding it. I encourage you to get up and quit waiting for the right moment to finally fulfill your purpose. This requires you to quit waiting for approval from those who sugarcoat your ears with sweet words but behind your back are waiting to watch you fall.  They are just going to have to watch you rise.

Those that have to do their calling in fear of what others may say or think, can be found courageous if they simply walk by faith and not by sight.  It does not matter who says or does what to us or against us.  If we are walking in faith, then our concern is on God and his will, not the concern of others who secretly want to see us fall. Don’t allow yourself to be others entertainment by being so concerned with the things they don’t understand about you. People will always speak their minds and give their opinions, but that doesn’t mean the words spoken are truths of who you are.

We answer to God, not to man… This is our greatest reminder that we concern ourselves with the business of God and His plans, over the business of others around us. We would not procrastinate as much if we would mind our own business and not listen to the voices of sabotage around us. God doesn’t use perfect people, he uses those with a willing heart, who have walked the road of brokenness and are willing to share the learned wisdom of the experience with others.  We have to lock it down in our thinking that what God is calling us to do must be done now, not when it is convenient or feels right…

Blessings to each of you overcomers,

Robin Worgull