Are you the type of person to put up a front when around others? Some people will appear to be a certain way in order to not be seen as who they have become. This front is simply a disguise to hide behind. Many people can get away with hiding behind their front but eventually they are seen for who they truly are by the exposing of their true self. Meaning, eventually they will expose themselves over time. Pride seems to be the reason for the front they are putting up. Proverbs 16:18 is our reminder that pride goeth before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall. (A haughty spirit is a look at me attitude.)
Did you know, there are people that seek others who are in desperate need of rescuing or fixing? Normally the ones running to their rescue to fix the problems are the ones running from the problems needing to be fixed in themselves. They tend to use other people as a distraction to avoid the need of facing the fixing they need God to do in themselves. This means, they unknowingly hide behind others while claiming to be helping them. So, instead of facing their own issues they run to the need of others to hide from their need of being fixed. What happens is they give their all to the ones they are trying to rescue or fix but walk away disappointed because the person no longer has a need for them, which only has their undealt with issues surfacing that much stronger. Then add the emotional insecurities that come with the rejection faced of the person no longer needing your help. The question to be asked is who is helping who? The person no longer needs your help but you need them to need you.
It becomes a cycle that exhausts and disappoints you quickly. First off, there’s nothing wrong with helping people but to believe you can fix or rescue them is out of your capabilities. Only God can fix someone, it is called healing and deliverance. Not only that, but you can’t rescue someone who doesn’t want to be rescued. What happens is resistance is met and you both take a fall. What remains standing is the pride that was never dealt with.
What many people fail to understand is that until we surrender our brokenness over to God first, we are masking our emotional pain by claiming to help others; but the truth is we think we are helping ourselves by helping them. That’s why most of us are caught off guard when God begins stripping us of everything that brings us comfort in order to get us to turn our eyes back on Him so He can change us first. See, sometimes we get wrapped up in helping others that we neglect what is going on in our own lives and become distracted to what God’s plan is.
Hiding will only lead to emptiness and us exhausting ourselves to seek approval for something we refuse to surrender. Hiding also is a form of lying to ourselves and others seeking something we were never meant to obtain. Something we selfishly seek but is out of the will of God for us to have. We may be able to convince others by portraying ourselves as something we are not, but God sees all and knows all even the intentions of our hearts. My encouragement is get yourself right with God first before trying to help others get right. You can do this by surrendering your hurts, fears, and disappointments over to the one more qualified than you or I .
Some people are going through a difficult time, questioning what the next step is. My encouragement is begin praising the Lord out loud as this confuses the enemy and the strategies he plans to use against you. It also gives breathing room during the wait for direction needed.
There will be times the Lord will allow our lives to be rearranged. Everything will look out of order and wrong through our eyes; but that is the time the Lord is actually putting our lives in the correct order. Sometimes when we see things that appear wrong we tend to panic within. We pray that the Lord’s will is done but as He begins working in our lives we resist what He is trying to do because it is different than what we anticipated He would do for us. We begin to scramble as quickly as we can to put things back in the order they were so we can return to normal. (Keep in mind, sometimes we learn to function best in toxic environments because we spent so much time there and grew comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. ) For us to return things back to normal, may not have been the best God had for us to be in.
The Lord doesn’t want our lives to always go in one direction, as there is no growth in that. Sometimes He will allow us to feel pain in order to remind us we need him. Other times he may allow us to face hardships, so he can continue giving us strength training. He may allow us to be all alone for a certain time in order too break down our hardened hearts. The Lord wants us to continually grow in him and mirror him. His reflection should be seen in us, which is why He allows us to go through growing pains. Growing pains hurt and last a while regardless how young or old we are.
My encouragement to you is don’t resist what you don’t understand during your growth season. Don’t fight it as it will only last that much longer. The Lord is needing you stronger in a certain area for the job he is leading you too. You were the one chosen to do His work. You haven’t met the person you are intended to meet yet, or accepted the position that hasn’t been offered yet. This is simply your season of strength training. Remember, it is the devil trying to persuade you that your life is falling apart instead of in place.
There is a difference between friends and acquaintances. Aways use wisdom before calling someone your friend.
A friend looks out for your best interest, helps maintain your closeness with the Lord and encourages time with your spouse and children. They love at all times and encourage you during times of lowliness. They love you because they took the time to get to know you. They allow you to see them when they are vulnerable and don’t judge you when you are in the same boat. They are truthful and loyal. They walk through all seasons of life with you. They correct in love and in private when we hold wrong thinking or wrong behavior. They follow healthy boundaries and know the order they fit into in your life. ( God first, then spouse/children, then all others.) They don’t hold the need to be the center of attention because they don’t hold selfish tendencies.
An acquaintance is someone who knows very little about you and only allows you to see in them what they want you to see. They look out for themselves before looking out for others. They expect you to compromise your standard of living to fit theirs. They expect you to participate in activities they enjoy such as socializing in manners that go against God’s standards set for us to follow. They have no problem removing you from your obligations such as your spouse or family. They love things about you but don’t love you because they are too busy taking from you instead of making time to get to know you. They seek to gain something from you where their life hold voids. It may be that they are lonely, depressed or bored but they seek something you keep giving and most of it comes down to the time you offer them. They gain approval from you that others don’t hold for them. They keep coming back to have their needs met but hold no intention of meeting your unmet needs. They are in your life for a short season not longterm. Their loyalty belongs to self, not to you.
Not everyone is a blessing. Some people appear to be at first but not everything is as it appears to be. Those that appear to be a blessing eventually will expose themselves and your blinders will be ripped from you as quick as the air in your chest was. You will be floored by what they expose all on their own doing. This means some people we call a blessing are simply a trap meant to lure us away from the Lord. If someone is replacing the time God intended for your marriage and family, they are not a blessing. They are a distraction intended to lead you down a path of sin and destructive behavior. If they are condoning your wrong thinking or behavior, you need to start questioning what you gain by keeping their company. You gain something that is why they are still around, but what you gain doesn’t outweigh what you are giving up.
Get up soldier, it’s time to dress in your armor. You have been trained your entire life for this moment. Those times you were broken down through life were necessary in order to build you up strong for what you are about to encounter. You are strong and more capable than you can imagine. God sends His strongest soldiers into the worst battles. He saw fit to send you into this one. You need to rid yourself of any fear held that has you bowing to defeat because the spirit of fear is not of God. 2 Timothy 1:7 ” For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
There is a battle going on in the unseen realm where dark angels and angels of light both are trying to conquer control over us right now. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us we don’t battle against flesh and blood but against principalities in high places. We can’t see the battle taking place but all those assaults aimed at your mind is your reminder that dark angels intend to wear you down emotionally so physically you bow to defeat. Remember all through scriptures God reminds us He will fight our battles for us, all we have to do is stand on faith. Don’t be one of the weak individuals weeded out. This is a battle to see who the strongest soldiers are.
Place your military mentality cap on and wear it with boldness for the commander of truth. This means you don’t get your feelings hurt every time the voices of evil try convincing you that you don’t measure up. You are a strong warrior equipped with the knowledge of how to defeat the enemy. Act like it by being fearless! Now is the time you must have thick skin because not everyone will like you or stand with you. Soldiers don’t worry about who likes them or who approves of their job. They take the orders given and do the job knowing it’s business not personal. They answer to the commanding officer.
We answer to the commander of truth. We are given orders to stand on faith and to be suited up for the battles coming our way. God saw you as one of the strongest soldiers otherwise you would not be facing the upset coming at you. Now is the time to quit saying you have faith and actually prove it. Step out courageously, holding the truth of who you are and show the enemy who is in control of you. You can even remind the enemy his fate is already sealed .
Rise up soldier for the battle is at hand. If you get knocked down, brush the dust off, get back up and stand on truth. The enemy coming at you seeks complete darkness. He aims to take you out because you hold the light. Don’t let darkness dim your light. You were given power, love and a sound mind to complete the mission assigned to you.