Sometimes It’s about them, not you:

I’m not one to air my personal business, but I hope my story helps someone’s struggle today and they walk away encouraged.

The past seven months my regular routine has been turned every which way but right side up. Everything is upside down and then spun in every direction. My equilibrium has yet to reset… Tears stream down my face daily as frustration and exhaustion have become my shadow. I can’t escape pain as I have it both emotionally and physically. I’m hypersensitive to people’s hurtful words and opinions. I don’t know how I haven’t clawed some people’s tongues out over words spoken to me. If looks really did kill, I’d be guilty of murder right now…

Yet I choose to respond with love, gentleness, and discipline of my tongue, as to not project my pain onto someone else. What I am going through is my portion in life at this moment in time. What others say or do is none of my business, so I don’t dwell on it or concern myself with what they think… I also don’t share my business with anyone. The way I see it, is if you know what’s going on then you were intended to know, but if you know nothing I prefer to keep you out of my business because you don’t deserve to know it. In other words, I don’t value the views some people hold of me , so why would I confide in them my struggles just to hear negative feedback? What I do instead is I take my hurt to the only one who can heal my broken heart and soothe my weary soul… I don’t take my hurt to just anyone willing to listen because they can’t touch the deepness of my heart the way God can. I need my heart healed and my soul needs a friend to get through what I’m about to share with you…

Seven months ago during my 26 year wedding anniversary week, my husband had a heart attack. I can’t express how horrible it was to watch my best friend of 34 years laying in bed, staring death down in a battle he could have lost. A couple weeks later after him being home and us adjusting to a new way of living, one of my children walked out the door without saying goodbye because of hurtful words that came out of my mouth. My words were meant to correct behavior but my delivery method was wrong and out of line. I was too harsh at a time that gentleness was needed most. While trying to cope with my husband’s health, digesting my child moving out and trying to care for my other children and the home, my youngest child who had been in remission from cancer for 4 years , relapsed… Cancer came back so aggressively that there was no time to waste and treatment started immediately but in a town 90 minutes from home in a new state I have yet to learn. I went from 0-60 in no time flat. If all this wasn’t enough to send my head spinning, the devil decided to send in another traumatic event to the mess we were already dealing with. That event was me being hospitalized and an oncologist looking at my labs for cancer. He didn’t find any but he did find a serious auto immune disease… I shared all this with you hoping someone can relate to what I’m about to say…

If I were looking at everything that was happening to my family through carnal or worldly eyes, then all of this would be about me and what I was going through. I could play the victim card and be angry towards undeserving people. I could throw tantrums to get attention and receive sympathy in areas that would cause me to not take responsibility for my actions. Yet, I choose to look at what has happened through eyes of discernment… Discernment tells me the truth of the situation , which is, this was never about me or my family. This is something our family is going through to place us in areas no one wants to be in; in order to have a divine meeting with someone that only our family can reach for God’s will to be accomplished…

We don’t know who the person is that we we’re meant to meet but that doesn’t change the fact that God allowed this suffering because whoever that person is, God will press a message on our hearts to share with them at an exact moment that was predestined. We are simply a connecting link to a chain of events God already devised. He placed us in 3 different hospitals over a seven month period meeting hundreds of people. Out of all those people, someone was meant to encounter a meeting with us and walk away with a message that only they would know what to do with, that could only come from our family.

I don’t know if we completed the assignment or who the person is, but I’m confident our faith, words spoken, love shown and commitment to God has left a lasting impression on many people. The devil worked hard at trying to make us lose footing along the way and even threw in division in hopes of thwarting God’s plan from happening…

Isaiah 43:18-18 helped me through this hardship. It reminds us that we are to not think or concern ourselves of the former things because they are nothing compared to what God is about to do. With that being said, I sure wish I could see the impact our family will make for God’s Kingdom, by reaching this person God sent our way through a time of extreme suffering… We may never know and yet we continue the journey ahead of us with faith in each step because sometimes it’s about others, not us.


Robin Worgull

Author of The Conflict Within and The Right-Minded Woman

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18 thoughts on “Sometimes It’s about them, not you:

  1. Robin, i continue to pray every night for Summer and your family. I know the struggles of being a parent with a sick child, not being able to sleep in your own bed and going without a shower for days. My life with my son Timmy was living in a hospital for months at a time away from the comforts of your known surroundings and family. I pray for strenght and continued strenght.

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  2. Robin
    You and your Beautiful family are such a blessing to so many! I pray for each and everyone of you , and I thank you for being such a wonderful Blessing in my life!!!! Love & Hugs to you all!!!!
    Pam Brower

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      1. Happy mother’s day Robin ❤️
        What a hard season you and your family are traveling through. All of you, no doubt, dealing with so many feelings and fears. And yet you get it…it never is about us….we belong to Him, we are His to use as He wishes….and we are His hands and feet as we walk through this world…walking eachother home. I wish you didn’t have to go through this season of suffering. I pray for the strength of your faith and your family. I am confident that you are ministering to others as you go….you minister to me with your faithfulness, your honesty and your realness❤️
        We continue to pray and ask God for His continued watch over your family, His comfort that only He can give….reminding ourselves and eachother that this world is not our home…..but we do have a Home prepared for us!! Love you girlfriend.. wish I could hug you and cry with you…..keep shinning…May God continue to carry you❤️

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