Are you the type of person to put up a front when around others? Some people will appear to be a certain way in order to not be seen as who they have become. This front is simply a disguise to hide behind. Many people can get away with hiding behind their front but eventually they are seen for who they truly are by the exposing of their true self. Meaning, eventually they will expose themselves over time. Pride  seems to be the reason for the front they are putting up. Proverbs 16:18 is our reminder that pride goeth before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall. (A haughty spirit is a look at me attitude.)

Did you know, there are people that seek others who are in desperate need of rescuing or fixing? Normally the ones running to their rescue to fix the problems are the ones running from the problems needing to be fixed in themselves. They tend to use other people as a distraction to avoid the need of facing the fixing they need God to do in themselves. This means, they unknowingly hide behind others while claiming to be helping them.  So, instead of facing their own issues they run to  the need of others to hide from their need of being fixed. What happens is they give their all to the ones they are trying to rescue or fix but walk away disappointed because the person no longer has a need  for them, which only has their undealt with issues surfacing that much stronger. Then add the emotional insecurities that come with the rejection faced of the person no longer needing your help. The question to be asked is who is helping who? The person no longer needs your help but you need them to need you.

It becomes a cycle that exhausts and disappoints you quickly. First off, there’s nothing wrong with helping people but to believe you can fix or rescue them is out of your capabilities. Only God can fix someone, it is called healing and deliverance. Not only that, but you can’t rescue someone who doesn’t want to be rescued. What happens is resistance is met and you both take a fall. What remains standing is the pride that was never dealt with.

What many people fail to understand is that until we surrender our brokenness over to God first, we are masking our emotional pain by claiming to help others; but the truth is we think we are helping ourselves by helping them.  That’s why most of us are caught off guard when God begins stripping us of everything that brings us comfort in order to get us to turn our eyes back on Him so He can change us first. See, sometimes we get wrapped up in helping others that we neglect what is going on in our own lives and become distracted to what God’s plan is.

Hiding will only lead to emptiness and us exhausting ourselves to seek approval for something we refuse to surrender. Hiding also is a form of lying to ourselves and others seeking something we were never meant to obtain. Something we selfishly seek but is out of the will of God for us to have. We may be able to convince others by portraying ourselves as something we are not, but God sees all and knows all even the intentions of our hearts. My encouragement is get yourself right with God first before trying to help others get right. You can do this by surrendering your hurts, fears, and disappointments over to the one more qualified than you or I .

Blessings,

Robin Worgull