Day: September 30, 2019

Friend or Foe?

There is a difference between friends and acquaintances. Aways use wisdom before calling someone your friend.

A friend looks out for your best interest, helps maintain your closeness with the Lord and encourages time with your spouse and children. They love at all times and encourage you during times of lowliness.  They love you because they took the time to get to know you. They allow you to see them when they are vulnerable and don’t judge you when you are in the same boat. They are truthful and loyal. They walk through all seasons of life with you. They correct in love and in private when we hold wrong thinking or wrong behavior. They follow healthy boundaries and know the order they fit into in your life. ( God first, then spouse/children, then all others.) They don’t hold the need to be the center of attention because they don’t hold selfish tendencies.

An acquaintance is someone who knows very little about you and only allows you to see in them what they want you to see. They look out for themselves before looking out for others. They expect you to compromise your standard of living to fit theirs.  They expect you to participate in activities they enjoy such as socializing in manners that go against God’s standards set for us to follow. They have no problem removing you from your obligations such as your spouse or family. They love things about you but don’t love you because they are too busy taking from you instead of making time to get to know you. They seek to gain something from you where their life hold voids. It may be that they are lonely, depressed or bored but they seek something you keep giving and most of it comes down to the time you offer them. They gain approval from you that others don’t hold for them. They keep coming back to have their needs met but hold no intention of meeting your unmet needs. They are in your life for a short season not longterm. Their loyalty belongs to self, not to you.

Not everyone is a blessing. Some people appear to be at first but not everything is as it appears to be. Those that appear to be a blessing eventually will expose themselves and your blinders will be ripped from you as quick as the air in your chest was. You will be floored by what they expose all on their own doing. This means some people we call a blessing are simply a trap meant to lure us away from the Lord. If someone is replacing the time God intended for your marriage and family, they are not a blessing. They are a distraction intended to lead you down a path of sin and destructive behavior. If they are condoning your wrong thinking or behavior, you need to start questioning what you gain by keeping their company.  You gain something that is why they are still around, but what you gain doesn’t outweigh what you are giving up.

Blessings,

Robin Worgull