Many of us hold people in our lives that routinely wear the mask of deceit. This mask is meant to disguise the true intentions of the person wearing it. It’s simply a trap many of us fall into when it could have easily been avoided. Those of us who encounter this deception tend to be caught off guard due to who was wearing the mask. We don’t expect to be misled by our spouse, family member or friends. No, these are the people who should be uplifting us with their words not tearing us down with lies that are meant to convince us that we are the cause of their upset. The truth is people who hold dishonest behavior point the finger of blame at others before looking inwardly at themselves first. If they were to stop and take a good look at themselves they would be able to determine why they feel the need to disguise their true character.
Take the secretive person for instance. They tend to want to be seen as better than who they have become. They must be hiding something they feel others might judge them on. They often feel if people knew them for how they truly are, they might not have as many people around, thinking as highly as they do if they knew the whole truth. What they do instead, is only let people see them as they want to be seen. They do this by giving partial truth and withholding the rest of the truth needed for the people around them to decide for themselves if this is the company they want to keep. They try to sell themselves as genuine but everything about their actions screams, fraudulent. Their words and actions contradict each other and mislead anyone who crosses their paths. Many of them hold addictions they fear for those around them to know about. It may be that they are addicted to alcohol, porn or something less destructive such as seeking the attention of others. Seeking the attention of others can be destructive if the method they use draws the wrong attention. The way they position themselves in life is not always the truth of who they truly are.
People who wear the mask of deceit often carry emotional baggage. They often fail to see that what they used temporarily to self medicate or get through a tough hardship, quickly turned into a long term problem. Sometimes no substance is used but rather a person who makes them feel alive is used instead. In order to not expose themselves, they must become more secretive. The more secretive they become the more anger they hold. They use anger to defend themselves against those they feel threatened by. The more anger held the more abuse verbally or physically is issued towards unsuspecting people. Each turn they make is double-crossing someone else. They are trying to camouflage their emotional pain but in the process are issuing it onto those they claim to love or care for.
Those people who can’t see the mask of deceit for what it is, are the people worn down from such harsh treatment endured. I’m talking about the ones who have been lied to for so long and wrongly accused of things they didn’t do. The ones who have been called every name in the book and questioned why they are not lovable or are rejected by those claiming to love them. Those who analyze every word spoken to them and self evaluate themselves to the end degree and still hold no resolution. Those who hold such a deep void within and cried enough tears to last them a lifetime. Those robbed of time invested and peace ripped right out of them. Left hopeless and mourning over things done to them. Until… They called the truth of their situation.
Here’s how to call the truth of every situation you may encounter: Who, what, when, where and why are the five questions you must ask.
- Who was speaking to me? Was it the spirit of truth or the spirit of evil? 1 John 4:1 reminds us to test the spirits. Keep in mind we are sent a message every day and sometimes those messages are spoken through people our hearts are invested in. Just because it looks and sounds like a trusted individual such as our spouse, family member or friend doesn’t mean they were the ones who sent the message. They were simply the vessel used.
- What did I take away from this message? Remember you have to discern if you will believe or reject what was spoken to you or done to you.
- When did this take place? It doesn’t matter when what matters is how you react. This means, don’t play into the hand the devil has dealt you. It’s simply a trap.
- Where was I in my spiritual walk when I took offense to words spoke to me? If you are not positioned under God and aligning yourself to his will for you then you are walking on an open battlefield with no battle gear on for protection. This means you are exposed to the elements around you.
- Why were these things said or done to me? Again, we take away a message in every conversation or action done against us. Ask yourself was this done against me or against God? Was the conversation uplifting or did it tear you down?
When you start asking these five questions is when you start pulling the truth of why the mask of deceit worn by trusted individuals bothers you as much as it does. Remember, they don’t speak the truth so don’t expect to hear it. They don’t hold good intentions so don’t expect right behavior. They live under the standards they set for themselves not under the standards God expects us to live by. You can’t understand something you don’t subscribe too which is the dark spirit influencing the person wearing the mask of deceit. It doesn’t matter how much your heart has invested in the person who deceives you, your love is not enough to change their heart. Only God can change the hearts of people. Jeremiah 17:9 reminds us the heart is deceiving. This means don’t believe everything you feel because that mistake will have you using your emotions as your logic. When you begin calling the truth of each and every situation, is when you begin exposing the one hiding behind the mask of deceit. They can only hide as long as you allow them too.