It is extremely difficult to keep our minds on things above when our sole focus is on everything going on around us. Things such as the demands associated with being married and having children.
A huge mistake a woman can make is allowing the demands to overtake her. We are meant to manage our homes while remembering everything we do, is to do be done to the glory of God. ( 1 Corinthians 10:31 ) So, to be overtaken by demands is our first indication we are trying to operate on our own strength or our own understanding, which ultimately throws us off emotionally. This causes us to feel frustrated or angry. Yet if we are caring for our family with the mindset of pleasing God, then we would seek His will over trying to obtain our own will.
It is hard to downshift by handing over control when we have demanded control for so long in our homes. We expect our homes to look a certain way, our kids to behave, expect alone time with our spouse and if rules are not followed, we become upset due to the control of the home being lost.
As a mother of four I use to pray that God would calm my kids, but the truth is, He showed me I was the one in need of calming. See, the mistake I kept making was comparing my womanhood to the women around me. I saw their lives in order and my life in chaos. I saw organized homes, well-behaved kids, and then when I looked at my life I just didn’t see where I measured up. It didn’t matter how hard I tried, my house always looked lived in while I continued to look tired. I couldn’t understand how these women had the energy to look flawless, have a clean home and still have well-behaved children. What were they doing that I wasn’t? How could I become that type of woman for my family?
When we look to the left then to the right and compare ourselves to others, we will never be happy with who we are as a person. We don’t need to try to be like others in order to hold what we think they have. We only know what they allow us to see. We don’t know what they had to go through to get to where they are. Keep in mind, sometimes the package looks perfect but the gift inside is broken…
In order to be a right-minded woman, we must not compare ourselves to others. God called us to be ourselves because He wants to use our unique ways for His glory. What we see as flaws He sees as potential. You were the perfect woman for your husband and the perfect woman to raise your children. No one else can do what you do for your family. Where you are right now is exactly where you are supposed to be. What you do with the time God grants you on earth, is the difference between making an impact in your families life or defeating them before they are old enough to leave your home. It is our duty to be a helpmate to our husband and an example worth following to our children. According to Psalm 90:12, our days are numbered and we have no time to waste on trying to be someone other than who we were called to be.