Many marriages are failing… One has to ask the question… Is the “marriage” failing or are the two “people” in the marriage failing?
A marriage consists of two people who joined together in a union before God and witnesses. The union consisted of vows being made. In the vows there’s a part that states “till death do us part”.
What we are witnessing instead is “until pride do us part.”
Anytime conditions are placed on the love we are willing to give; a tolerance limit is given as well. This means people are willing to continue loving a person as long as all conditions of their love is met.
Now marriages are beginning to look like this below:
“My love will be patient until my spouse is unkind, rude, proud, self seeking, easily angered, enjoys sinning, keeps record of my wrongs, or until my spouse begins bragging. At my limit of tolerance, I no longer will protect or trust my spouse, nor will my love hold hope or persevere any longer… Until no more tolerance do we part.”
The law states we must be a certain age before we qualify to enter into a marriage. This age qualifies us as mature enough to handle the responsibilities of the union we enter into.
1 Corinthians 13:11 Reminds us that when we were a child we spoke as a child but when we became adults we put our childish ways aside.
If you are known to place conditions on the love you are willing to offer in your marriage; then you clearly are not familiar with mature love found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
There is a level of maturity needed in order to hold unconditional love for your spouse. It does not matter if we are 18 years old or 100 years old, childish behavior lacks maturity. If you are prone to be upset over your marriage, it may be time to take a look within and self examine to see if you are blaming your spouse for the same things you are guilty of. Sometimes we forget that our love offered or withheld; speaks volumes about our true character. Philippians 1:9