In the past when someone would give me a compliment, I was quick to dismiss it and throw out a flaw about myself. I was determined to mention the flaw before they had the opportunity to point it out first…I had very low self-esteem and little confidence.
The truth is, when people don’t believe a compliment it is because they either don’t feel it is true or they have heard so much negative about themselves that they tend to lean on the belief that the person saying something kind holds cruel intentions. It almost becomes a knee jerk reaction to be on guard and hold people suspect; over just accepting the compliment and being appreciative of some kind words.
Normally if people tend to not take compliments well it could be because they have heard negative comments over a period of time. Almost as if trusted people in their circle have placed unfair labels on them out of opinions held. If the people holding opinions were critical of others then the opinions must have been brutal to the one on the receiving end. This can create a hostile relationship not to mention resentment and anger . It also can become a stronghold if it is not laid down at the Lord’s feet… See, what we don’t lay down we tend to hold onto. Unfortunately, the things we hang onto are not always healthy for us later on.
Those who hold low self-esteem or lack confidence are the ones who gave more weight to opinions said about them than truths known about them. They don’t know how to get away from thinking such negative thoughts about themselves that they actually begin speaking negatively about themselves. Why? They believe the lies spoken and the lies become their truths and their truths become their words. (In the end, it still equates to lies.)
If you or someone you know is constantly speaking negative about themselves; I encourage you to ask the Lord how He sees you… I also encourage you to look up Philippians 4:7 “And the peace of God which passes all understanding shall keep your hearts and mind through Christ Jesus.”
See, God will guard our hearts and minds. (Literally) So if the devil tries using a negative person to send an emotional assault our way; God will block it and redirect it away from our hearts and minds. When I began claiming that scripture daily, the Lord began showing me how He saw me… These days I see myself much differently than in years past. He has shown me that the woman I am in His eyes, is nothing like the labels others tried to place on me… When speaking of yourself speak truths only…