Are you helping or using others to hide behind?

Are you the type of person to put up a front when around others? Some people will appear to be a certain way in order to not be seen as who they have become. This front is simply a disguise to hide behind. Many people can get away with hiding behind their front but eventually they are seen for who they truly are by the exposing of their true self. Meaning, eventually they will expose themselves over time. Pride  seems to be the reason for the front they are putting up. Proverbs 16:18 is our reminder that pride goeth before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall. (A haughty spirit is a look at me attitude.)

Did you know, there are people that seek others who are in desperate need of rescuing or fixing? Normally the ones running to their rescue to fix the problems are the ones running from the problems needing to be fixed in themselves. They tend to use other people as a distraction to avoid the need of facing the fixing they need God to do in themselves. This means, they unknowingly hide behind others while claiming to be helping them.  So, instead of facing their own issues they run to  the need of others to hide from their need of being fixed. What happens is they give their all to the ones they are trying to rescue or fix but walk away disappointed because the person no longer has a need  for them, which only has their undealt with issues surfacing that much stronger. Then add the emotional insecurities that come with the rejection faced of the person no longer needing your help. The question to be asked is who is helping who? The person no longer needs your help but you need them to need you.

It becomes a cycle that exhausts and disappoints you quickly. First off, there’s nothing wrong with helping people but to believe you can fix or rescue them is out of your capabilities. Only God can fix someone, it is called healing and deliverance. Not only that, but you can’t rescue someone who doesn’t want to be rescued. What happens is resistance is met and you both take a fall. What remains standing is the pride that was never dealt with.

What many people fail to understand is that until we surrender our brokenness over to God first, we are masking our emotional pain by claiming to help others; but the truth is we think we are helping ourselves by helping them.  That’s why most of us are caught off guard when God begins stripping us of everything that brings us comfort in order to get us to turn our eyes back on Him so He can change us first. See, sometimes we get wrapped up in helping others that we neglect what is going on in our own lives and become distracted to what God’s plan is.

Hiding will only lead to emptiness and us exhausting ourselves to seek approval for something we refuse to surrender. Hiding also is a form of lying to ourselves and others seeking something we were never meant to obtain. Something we selfishly seek but is out of the will of God for us to have. We may be able to convince others by portraying ourselves as something we are not, but God sees all and knows all even the intentions of our hearts. My encouragement is get yourself right with God first before trying to help others get right. You can do this by surrendering your hurts, fears, and disappointments over to the one more qualified than you or I .

Blessings,

Robin Worgull

Don’t Resist What You Don’t Understand:

Some people are going through a difficult time, questioning what the next step is. My encouragement is begin praising the Lord out loud as this confuses the enemy and the strategies he plans to use against you. It also gives breathing room during the wait for direction needed.

There will be times the Lord will allow our lives to be rearranged. Everything will look out of order and wrong through our eyes; but that  is the time the Lord is actually putting our lives in the correct order. Sometimes when we see things that appear wrong we tend to panic within. We pray that the Lord’s will is done but as He begins working in our lives we resist what He is trying to do because it is different than what we anticipated He would do for us. We begin to scramble as quickly as we can to put things back in the order they were so we can return to normal. (Keep in mind, sometimes we learn to function best in toxic environments  because we spent so much time there and grew comfortable in an uncomfortable situation. ) For us to return things back to normal, may not have been the best God had for us to be in.

The Lord doesn’t want our lives to always go in  one direction, as there is no growth in that.  Sometimes He will allow us to feel pain in order to remind us we need him. Other times he may allow us to face hardships, so he can continue giving us strength training. He may allow us to be all alone for a certain time in order too break down our hardened hearts. The Lord wants us to continually grow in him and mirror him. His reflection should be seen in us, which is why He allows us to go through growing pains. Growing pains hurt and last a while regardless how young or old we are.

My encouragement to you is don’t resist what you don’t understand during your growth season. Don’t fight it as it will only last that much longer. The Lord is needing you stronger in a certain area for the job he is leading you too. You were the one chosen to do His work. You haven’t met the person you are intended to meet yet, or accepted the position that hasn’t been offered yet. This is simply your season of strength training. Remember, it is the devil trying to persuade you that your life is falling apart instead of in place.

Blessings,

Robin Worgull

Friend or Foe?

There is a difference between friends and acquaintances. Aways use wisdom before calling someone your friend.

A friend looks out for your best interest, helps maintain your closeness with the Lord and encourages time with your spouse and children. They love at all times and encourage you during times of lowliness.  They love you because they took the time to get to know you. They allow you to see them when they are vulnerable and don’t judge you when you are in the same boat. They are truthful and loyal. They walk through all seasons of life with you. They correct in love and in private when we hold wrong thinking or wrong behavior. They follow healthy boundaries and know the order they fit into in your life. ( God first, then spouse/children, then all others.) They don’t hold the need to be the center of attention because they don’t hold selfish tendencies.

An acquaintance is someone who knows very little about you and only allows you to see in them what they want you to see. They look out for themselves before looking out for others. They expect you to compromise your standard of living to fit theirs.  They expect you to participate in activities they enjoy such as socializing in manners that go against God’s standards set for us to follow. They have no problem removing you from your obligations such as your spouse or family. They love things about you but don’t love you because they are too busy taking from you instead of making time to get to know you. They seek to gain something from you where their life hold voids. It may be that they are lonely, depressed or bored but they seek something you keep giving and most of it comes down to the time you offer them. They gain approval from you that others don’t hold for them. They keep coming back to have their needs met but hold no intention of meeting your unmet needs. They are in your life for a short season not longterm. Their loyalty belongs to self, not to you.

Not everyone is a blessing. Some people appear to be at first but not everything is as it appears to be. Those that appear to be a blessing eventually will expose themselves and your blinders will be ripped from you as quick as the air in your chest was. You will be floored by what they expose all on their own doing. This means some people we call a blessing are simply a trap meant to lure us away from the Lord. If someone is replacing the time God intended for your marriage and family, they are not a blessing. They are a distraction intended to lead you down a path of sin and destructive behavior. If they are condoning your wrong thinking or behavior, you need to start questioning what you gain by keeping their company.  You gain something that is why they are still around, but what you gain doesn’t outweigh what you are giving up.

Blessings,

Robin Worgull

Rise Up Soldier!

Get up soldier, it’s time to dress in your armor. You have been trained your entire life for this moment. Those times you were broken down through life were necessary in order to build you up strong for what you are about to encounter. You are strong and more capable than you can imagine. God sends His strongest soldiers into the worst battles. He saw fit to send you into this one. You need to rid yourself of any fear held that has you bowing to defeat because the spirit of fear is not of God.  2 Timothy 1:7  ” For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

There is a battle going on in the unseen realm where dark angels and angels of light both are trying to conquer control over us right now. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us we don’t battle against flesh and blood but against principalities in high places. We can’t see the battle taking place but all those assaults aimed at your mind is your reminder that dark angels intend to wear you down emotionally so physically you bow to defeat. Remember all through scriptures God reminds us He will fight our battles for us, all we have to do is stand on faith. Don’t be one of the weak individuals weeded out. This is a battle to see who the strongest soldiers are.

Place your military mentality cap on and wear it with boldness for the commander of truth. This means you don’t get your feelings hurt every time the voices of evil try convincing you that you don’t measure up. You are a strong warrior equipped with the knowledge of how to defeat the enemy. Act like it by being fearless! Now is the time you must have thick skin because not everyone will like you or stand with you. Soldiers don’t worry about who likes them or who approves of their job. They take the orders given and do the job knowing it’s business not personal. They answer to the commanding officer.

We answer to the commander of truth. We are given orders to stand on faith and to be suited up for the battles coming our way. God saw you as one of the strongest soldiers otherwise you would not be facing the upset coming at you. Now is the time to quit saying you have faith and actually prove it. Step out courageously, holding the truth of who you are and show the enemy who is in control of you. You can even remind the enemy his fate is already sealed .

Rise up soldier for the battle is at hand. If you get knocked down, brush the dust off, get back up and stand on truth. The enemy coming at you seeks complete darkness. He aims to take you out because you hold the light. Don’t let darkness dim your light. You were given power, love and a sound mind to complete the mission assigned to you.

Blessing,

Robin Worgull

The Mask Of Deceit:

Many of us hold people in our lives that routinely wear the mask of deceit. This mask is meant to disguise the true intentions of the person wearing it. It’s simply a trap many of us fall into when it could have easily been avoided. Those of us who encounter this deception tend to be caught off guard due to who was wearing the mask. We don’t expect to be misled by our spouse, family member or friends. No, these are the people who should be uplifting us with their words not tearing us down with lies that are meant to convince us that we are the cause of their upset. The truth is people who hold dishonest behavior point the finger of blame at others before looking inwardly at themselves first. If they were to stop and take a good look at themselves they would be able to determine why they feel the need to disguise their true character.

Take the secretive person for instance. They tend to want to be seen as better than who they have become. They must be hiding something they feel others might judge them on. They often feel if people knew them for how they truly are, they might not have as many people around, thinking as highly as they do if they knew the whole truth. What they do instead, is only let people see them as they want to be seen. They do this by giving partial truth and withholding the rest of the truth needed for the people around them to decide for themselves if this is the company they want to keep. They try to sell themselves as genuine but everything about their actions screams, fraudulent. Their words and actions contradict each other and mislead anyone who crosses their paths. Many of them hold addictions they fear for those around them to know about. It may be that they are addicted to alcohol, porn or something less destructive such as seeking the attention of others. Seeking the attention of others can be destructive if the method they use draws the wrong attention. The way they position themselves in life is not always the truth of who they truly are.

People who wear the mask of deceit often carry emotional baggage.  They often fail to see that what they used temporarily to self medicate or get through a tough hardship, quickly turned into a long term problem. Sometimes no substance is used but rather a person who makes them feel alive is used instead. In order to not expose themselves, they must become more secretive. The more secretive they become the more anger they hold. They use anger to defend themselves against those they feel threatened by. The more anger held the more abuse verbally or physically is issued towards unsuspecting people. Each turn they make is double-crossing someone else. They are trying to camouflage their emotional pain but in the process are issuing it onto those they claim to love or care for.

Those people who can’t see the mask of deceit for what it is, are the people worn down from such harsh treatment endured. I’m talking about the ones who have been lied to for so long and wrongly accused of things they didn’t do.  The ones who have been called every name in the book and questioned why they are not lovable or are rejected by those claiming to love them. Those who analyze every word spoken to them and self evaluate themselves to the end degree and still hold no resolution. Those who hold such a deep void within and cried enough tears to last them a lifetime. Those robbed of time invested and peace ripped right out of them. Left hopeless and mourning over things done to them. Until… They called the truth of their situation.

Here’s how to call the truth of every situation you may encounter: Who, what, when, where and why are the five questions you must ask.

  1.  Who was speaking to me?  Was it the spirit of truth or the spirit of evil?  1 John 4:1 reminds us to test the spirits. Keep in mind we are sent a message every day and sometimes those messages are spoken through people our hearts are invested in. Just because it looks and sounds like a trusted individual such as our spouse, family member or friend doesn’t mean they were the ones who sent the message. They were simply the vessel used.
  2. What did I take away from this message? Remember you have to discern if you will believe or reject what was spoken to you or done to you.
  3. When did this take place?  It doesn’t matter when what matters is how you react. This means, don’t play into the hand the devil has dealt you. It’s simply a trap.
  4. Where was I in my spiritual walk when I took offense to words spoke to me? If you are not positioned under God and aligning yourself to his will for you then you are walking on an open battlefield with no battle gear on for protection. This means you are exposed to the elements around you.
  5. Why were these things said or done to me? Again, we take away a message in every conversation or action done against us. Ask yourself was this done against me or against God? Was the conversation uplifting or did it tear you down?

When you start asking these five questions is when you start pulling the truth of why the mask of deceit worn by trusted individuals bothers you as much as it does. Remember, they don’t speak the truth so don’t expect to hear it. They don’t hold good intentions so don’t expect right behavior. They live under the standards they set for themselves not under the standards God expects us to live by.  You can’t understand something you don’t subscribe too which is the dark spirit influencing the person wearing the mask of deceit. It doesn’t matter how much your heart has invested in the person who deceives you, your love is not enough to change their heart. Only God can change the hearts of people. Jeremiah 17:9 reminds us the heart is deceiving. This means don’t believe everything you feel because that mistake will have you using your emotions as your logic. When you begin calling the truth of each and every situation, is when you begin exposing the one hiding behind the mask of deceit. They can only hide as long as you allow them too.

Blessings,

Robin Worgull

Do you allow your mind to wander?

So many of us have situational circumstances interfering with our quality of life. Things such as marital, health, financial or emotional issues that prevent us from truly living and cause us to feel as if we are merely existing. We become discouraged easily as we can’t see a solution to our problem. Our problem has gone on for so long, that we count it as normal when in all actuality it has made life feel abnormal. We feel a deep void but lack knowledge on what we can do to remove the void. We seek distractions looking for fulfillment but life has become dull and pointless to many of you reading. A situation encountered robbed you of joy and hope once held.  What was suppose to be and meant to be turned out entirely different than the anticipation held when it all began.

We tend to resolve our problems by looking for solutions. While looking for solutions is productive, sometimes our method of looking can be destructive.  If we have health issues we seek a doctor. Financial issues we seek other work or curb our spending. Both of these are healthy solutions, especially if we are in prayer and leaning on the Lord to resolve our hardships.

Most of our marital and emotional issues begin with a lack of understanding. Anytime our understanding is weakened,  our over analyzing is strengthened. We begin analyzing every word spoken, the tone used, body language and recall details involved such as smells, location, touch etc. This method of problem-solving is destructive. Why? Maybe because we are leaning on our own understanding of the situation itself.  If we are going to go as far as analyzing all these things, it is because of a certain situation we took personally and experienced heartache in the process. Anytime our heart is involved, emotions run strong. Our emotions can mislead us into thinking things that are not accurate which is why this method is destructive when problem-solving.

The Bible tells us to hold our thoughts captive for a time in order to discern where those thoughts came from. When we fail to hold our thoughts captive,  we become held captive by the very thoughts we think upon. Proverbs 23:7 reminds us that the way we think is how we become.

Most of us only think at the level of our own understanding. Our understanding may often be influenced by how we feel at the moment. If our emotions are running high then our understanding may be running low. My encouragement is to call the truth of every situation you encounter. The way we feel is not always the truth of a situation we are in.

To try finding a solution to our problem while under emotional distress, has us missing any logic needed to call the truth of how things truly are. Our emotions cloud our logic. When logic is clouded we tend to lean on our own understanding. Our understanding is the cause of our initial emotional distress, which is the primary cause of our marital issues. We must remove emotions in order to pull logic. I know, it sounds impossible but it is not. Hard? Yes, because we must hold discipline in our thoughts in order to hold discipline in our tongues. The words that come out of our mouths to our spouses, began in our thoughts…

Our thoughts determine if we are truly living or merely existing. See, negative thoughts lead to negative decisions, which are steps through this journey we call life. Our thoughts often throw us off course.

Blessings,

Robin Worgull